You certainly have no responsibility to continue sending gifts. We may not always deserve the gift we receive, but its sender always deserves a thank-you.
That thank-you should be said in person if the giver is there when we open it. If she is not there, a thank-you note is a must for any polite person.
Those of us who are related to seemingly ungrateful youth have an excellent opportunity to teach a lesson. Should you choose this assignment, include a note similar to the following in the next gift sent:
“Dear ________, It is my pleasure to send you gifts, because I love you. I always hope that what I send will make you happy. However, I do not know if the gifts I send are what you want unless you tell me. So, unless I receive a note from you thanking me and letting me know how you feel about this gift, it seems wise to stop sending possibly annoying presents. No matter what, I will continue to love you.”
A small box of thank-you stationery tucked in might make a response more likely. Stamps wouldn’t hurt.
Stand back and be prepared to receive some much-desired mail. I did.
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